Let this be your midlife line in the sand:
Your body, pleasure and desire belongs to YOU.
Welcome
I’m Kate Mellis
Somatic Therapist | Embodied Movement Facilitator
Founder of ROAR Embodiment & EroSoma Movement
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I help midlife women feel safer in their bodies so they can access greater choice, personal power and erotic wholeness, to create the free and joyful second half of life they really want.
Pleasure is complicated.
Of course you want to feel good in your body - who wouldn’t?
Yet, as a midlife woman, if centering your own pleasure activates conflicting feelings within you, you’re definitely not alone.
Even if you long to explore these parts of yourself; it’s far too normal for even the idea of pleasure, sensuality and erotic expression to elicit reactions in women ranging from complete avoidance, to mild discomfort, to a legitimate fear response.
When nervous system patterns like these become ingrained over the course of decades, it’s no wonder that women bury their erotic selves under duties and obligations, both as a strategy of protection and to avoid the inescapable grief of not being seen, met or honoured in the vulnerability of authentic desire.
When our body or sexuality is shamed, we naturally reject the parts we believe to be unworthy of love.
When we are harmed, our wise body may sever the connection to our innate erotic energy as protection.
When we repeatedly suppress our authentic selves to cling onto identities and roles offering the illusion of safety and belonging, our body learns self-betrayal is survival.
When all our energy goes into preserving our image as good women, good wives and good mothers, overfunctioning becomes the norm … and all contact is lost with what truly makes us feel alive.
But just because something has become “normal”, doesn’t mean it’s acceptable.
This is why Roar Embodiment exists.
Roar Embodiment supports women through the threshold of midlife; moving beyond patriarchal conditioning and survival mode, to rewrite the story of your body, sexuality and desires on your own terms.
If this feels like truth in your body, then let’s begin to shape the rest of your life - your way.
A free guided somatic practice for midlife women to reawaken erotic energy from a foundation of embodied safety, self-agency and loving compassion
Desire Rewired
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The EroSoma Movement Method is a liberatory embodied movement practice for women and vulva owners.
The central somatic practice within the Roar Embodiment Framework, EroSoma restores embodied safety, power and sensuality through authentic movement and freeform dance, to cultivate self-agency, free emotional stuckness, and celebrate all flavours of erotic expression - free from the male gaze.
Think you can’t dance? It’s time to stop thinking and let yourself be moved!
Hard Truth…
When it comes to midlife wellbeing; we can do all the yoga, pilates and cold plunges we like. We can invest thousands in skin care. We can implement aaaallll the strategies to support our hormone health. We can sign up to every fitness app there is.
But… if all our efforts towards optimal health and wellbeing remain entangled in misogynist patriarchal ideologies that rely on women’s self-loathing to thrive, we’re only continuing to feed a culture that profits from our shame and reinforces the story that women are always too much but never enough.
Of course - exercise is essential. A protein-rich, nutritious diet is important. Therapy is a no-brainer.
But learning to live from a safe, regulated body so you can free yourself from the male gaze, reclaim your voice and make choices aligned to your genuine needs and desires in midlife?
Now that is some sweet, sweet relief you cannot put a price on.
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Keen to dive into more musings from a midlife woman committed to living more ALIVE and less numb to what matters in a crumbling capitalist patriarchy?
"Pleasure is a medicine for the suffering that is absolutely promised in life… Pleasure is the point. Feeling good is not frivolous, it is freedom."