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Pleasure is your midlife power move
Welcome to erotic wholeness, authentic intimacy, and deep personal power in the second half of life.
I know what it feels like to draw a midlife line in the sand…
On the surface, I totally appeared like I had my shit together. My life was a shiny example of "success".
I was:
Wife to a successful man
Mother to 3 gorgeous daughters
Well educated and respected in my profession
Owner of a big beautiful home (plus a portfolio of investment properties)
In possession of all the bells and whistles that come with such privilege
But underneath it all, was a heart consumed by grief, shame and a deep longing to escape the prison of over-functioning and caretaking I'd built to soothe the ache of my own self-betrayal.
As a sensitive girl who didn't miss a trick, I became well practiced at pushing down my inner knowing and performing a version of myself that was most worthy of love and approval, by the people in my life I'd learned held the most power.
Saying yes when my body meant no became easy. Squashing my needs and wants to keep the peace was obvious. Handing over big life decisions and prioritising someone else's dreams ahead of my own... well, naturally.
My young body internalised that my safety and belonging was closely tied to:
👉🏻 Being easygoing and low maintenance
👉🏻 Being desirable and chosen (as opposed to having desires and choosing for myself)
👉🏻 Self-abandoning to maintain connection
👉🏻 Using sex as relational currency
My midlife body now knows that overriding my own needs and desires came at a huge cost to my nervous system and wellbeing.
Through almost a decade of devotion to somatic practice and healing, I now understand:
My chill, "I don't mind" attitude? Freeze state masking as a personality trait.
My overly generous, adaptable nature? Habitual fawning to keep the peace.
My ability to “cope” with constant boundary violations? Well-established patterns of dissociation.
Maybe you can relate?
Choosing to honour your body's truth and desire for safe, nourishing pleasure and intimacy, is the most loving power move you'll ever make. Not only for your benefit, but for all the women and girls who need a reminder that their pleasure matters, too.
By the time age 40 rolls around, it's not unusual to have already contended with big life losses, disappointments and regrets. I'm no exception.
Behind the polished mirage, my 30’s brought me to my knees.
Growing, birthing and mothering 3 young girls as primary caregiver was hard enough. I also suffered a miscarriage, endured my beloved little sister's 5 year brain cancer journey ending in her death, and encountered my own significant health challenges… all while wrestling with the uncertainty of my emerging queer identity.
My practices as a therapist and embodiment coach kept me psychologically and emotionally afloat, but it wasn't until the pain of living in deep misalignment outweighed my fear of making change, that I knew I had no other option but to save myself.
At 40, that’s exactly what I did.
Midlife is your chance to rewrite the script.
In a world where women’s bodies and pleasure have been corrupted, vilified and commodified for too long, this work is dedicated to what’s possible when we reclaim authentic choice and connect to our undiluted aliveness and expression.
As your experienced guide and companion along your embodied homecoming journey, I’ll help you understand the unique language of your body and nervous system, so you can trust with unwavering confidence that YOU have your own back, always.
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Renee Searles
Kate’s my favourite coach when I need loving support to unravel something tender and complex .
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Jenna Ward, School of Embodied Arts
Kate brings decades of devotion & advanced level skills to her work as an Embodiment Coach & Somatic Educator. Supporting her clients through the realms of grief & rage, to pleasure & aliveness - Kate is a phenomenal practitioner & mentor.
Roar Embodiment is in service of women coming alive to the embodied pleasure, power and brilliance they've always possessed but never truly owned
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Kate Mellis
Somatic Therapist and Embodied Movement Practitioner
Kate Mellis (she/her) is a white, cis, able-bodied, middle-class queer woman of Western European descent.
With a professional background spanning two decades in education, psychotherapy, somatic coaching and the embodied arts, Kate offers individual and group experiences focused on supporting women and vulva-owners to connect to embodied safety and self-agency as a robust foundation for inviting authentic pleasure, intimacy and aliveness in midlife.
Alongside the coaching programs offered under Roar Embodiment, Kate is the Founder of the EroSoma Embodied Movement Method. Nervous-system informed somatic movement meets freeform dance, EroSoma is a liberatory practice designed for women and vulva-owners to cultivate self-agency, free emotional stuckness, and celebrate all flavours of erotic expression.
Trauma-sensitive and rooted in the values and philosophy of intersectional feminism and queer theory, Kate prioritises deep connection, inclusivity, and embodied safety in her learning and practice spaces.
Ultimately, Kate's vision is that Roar Embodiment and EroSoma Movement will not only provide a path of transformative change for the individuals called to her work, but that the powerful leadership of these embodied midlife women and vulva-owners will ripple out into the collective and contribute to building a more loving, joyful world.
Professional Credentials
Tertiary Qualifications
Master of Counselling and Psychotherapy
ACAP
Graduate Diploma Counselling
ACAP
Bachelor of Creative Industries / Drama and Education
QUT
Internationally Recognised Certifications
Feminine Embodiment Coach
School of Embodied Arts
Non-Linear Movement Method Teacher
Michaela Boehm
Somatic Sex Coach
Institute of Somatic Sexology
ROAR Embodiment and EroSoma Movement offer a whole new internal navigation system to women willing to lean courageously into their body’s truth and longing as their north star in midlife and beyond.
Through coaching, education, and somatic practice, your body will remember:
You are the agent of your own aliveness.
You are an evolving human that is allowed to change and grow.
You are worthy of safe, empowering pleasure, sex and intimacy - always.
“I touch my own skin, and it tells me that before there was any harm, there was miracle.”